Her Success Is Not My Failure

Can we just talk about this for a minute? This topic has been burning in my heart for months and I feel like we need to talk about it. So let's just clear the air shall we! Other people success and accomplishments doesn't mean you or I have failed! Shall I type it again just so we are clear - her success is not my failure.

The fastest way to rob and steal your joy is to compare. Trust me, this blog I am typing this all to myself. The moment I start comparing myself to what she has or doesn't have, the job she has, the ministry the Lord has given her, the way she runs her house...I start to fix my eyes on others and not on the Lord. My joy starts to slowly depend not on my salvation [Hab. 3:18-19] but on others and circumstances that change daily. This comparison game can creep up on us slowly, even when we are aware.

Our church took on a challenge to fast for a couple weeks in March before Easter. Since I'm super pregnant fasting from food wasn't an option but fasting from Instagram was. I only did this for a week but wow, was I amazed at how much comparing I do and thinking that her life is so successful and compared to my life I have failed. Don't get me wrong, I love Instagram and the biblical community and encouragement I receive from it on a daily basis but these thoughts of failure can sneak up very quickly if I'm not careful.

Most of my feed is filled up by churches and women in full time ministry. I've started to become jealous of all the ways God is using them because these past couple months I haven't seen much spiritual fruit. I told Mark last week that I can't remember the last time I made a new disciple and led someone to Christ. I want more and I know there is more the Lord wants me to do. I know I am in this refining season [in a lot of ways] but I just want to skip this season and go to the bearing fruit part not the planting seeds and trimming away the branches stage [1 Cor 3, John 15].

After this wake up call [again] I am reminded of all the many many verses that call us to cheer one another on, pray for each other and build one another up. I love the community of Christ and I get so encouraged when my brothers and sisters are encouraging me - I want to do a better more conscious job of that.  Thankfully through God's word I fully know that He has a different plan for each one of his children and we need to be faithful in our race and calling, while encouraging others on in their race. I need yet again be reminded that other people's success is not me failing but that I should take encouragement from their success thanking the Lord for how he is using them.

Easier said then done right? But seriously, let's get over this and be more effective for the kingdom together - we have kingdom work to do on this earth and only one short life to do it!

Here are some verses that have encouraged and reminded me to celebrate others success and not become jealous of it. Let these verses soak deep and speak life into your day.

Philippians 2: 3-4
"Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit but with humility of mind regard one another as more important than yourselves; do not merely look out for your own personal interests, but also for the interests of others."

1 Thessalonians 5:11
"Therefore encourage one another and build up one another, just as you also are doing."

Hebrews 3:13
"But encourage one another day after day, as long as it is still called "Today," so that none of you will be hardened by the deceitfulness of sin."

Hebrews 10:24
"And let us consider how to stir up one another to love and good works."

Proverbs 27:17
"Iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another."

Proverbs 25:11
"Like apples of gold in settings of silver is a word spoken in right circumstances."

Let's know we have purpose and cheer others on in their journey. Remember, someone else's success does not mean you have failed.

Cheering you on today!!



So I never knew about this term "baby moon" before I was pregnant but once I got into all the websites and looked at the hashtags I knew it was a full out thing. The premise is just like a honeymoon but it's getting away together as a couple, one last time before baby comes and alone time is limited.

I mentioned to Mark way back in the fall about this concept as it was knew to him too and we decided that the idea sounded like a lot of fun. We've been counting pennies since Mark is back into school [and the upcoming expense of a child] and realized that going away for a week to the sunny south like we did for our honeymoon just wouldn't be an option.

So we decided for a one night stay within driving distance and didn't do anything for our anniversary or valentines day to save some money to afford a night away. In my valentines day card Mark had a hotel booked overlooking Niagara Falls for an evening! I was so stoked! Mark got a sweet deal on wag jag which came with some great coupons for dining out. If money is tight we so suggest going this route - I felt I was living the rich life even though we had all these coupons!

Even though we were away for less than twenty-four hours it was so perfect. Marriage is the best and I am so crazy in love with my husband. Honestly, every day gets better and I love him more. We have the most fun together and he is always finding ways to love and serve me. I am one blessed woman!

I am so excited to meet our son only a couple more LONG weeks but spending this last month with Mark has been so great too. If you are thinking about a baby moon, my advice do it!! Any excuse to get away with your spouse is a good one and it doesn't have to break your bank either.


New Music + Worship Playlist

Wanted to share some amazing music that has been encouraging to me and ask you to please give me suggestions of music that you are loving and artists that I should be listening too. I could use some more.

These songs/artists are in no particular order

Chris Tomlin/Housefires - Good Good Father

Elevation Worship launched a new album in February and it is awesome. Here are some of my favourites thus far

Elevation - Come to the Altar

Elevation - Ressurecting

Crowder - Here's my heart

Meredith Andrews also just launched a new album called Deeper. This is my favourite song of hers and I love the acoustic version

Meredith Andrews - Deeper

Hillsong United - Praise Song (Even when it hurts)

Hillsong - I believe/ The Creed

Elevation - Only King Forever

Lecrae ft King and Country - Messengers

Passion Band - Remember

Passion Band - Salvations Tide

Also here is one of my current worship playlists that have a bunch of these songs on it. Warning there are a few old school ones:) I love just being able to put on this playlist and worship my Lord. Brings such perspective on who I am and who He is. Hope you enjoy!


Third Trimester

Hurray!! Third trimester. Seriously though, I am cheering!! Pregnancy is long. Like so long. Have I mentioned that before? 

I've learnt some good lessons out of it and know I will continue too, but honestly Lord, you didn't want to make pregnancy 6 months instead of 9? I am so excited to meet my baby and so want to this next chapter of life to start. But I know that once baby is born I'm going to miss these nights alone in silence and all the free time I have. I know that these next two months are going to be the last that Mark and I have together just to two of us. I am trying to be present each day but it is a struggle when the next season ahead is so exciting.

Here are some more third trimester thoughts:

1. I am super needy
I'm not sure if it is the hormones raging in my body or the uncomfortable sleep that I have nightly but I am pretty needy. I prided myself on being independent and secure in myself but through this pregnancy and especially the third trimester I have become increasingly needy...mostly for my husbands love and attention. Trust me, you can ask him... it's been different. I like going to bed at the same time and hate when he leaves me.... did I mention that we work together every day? Yup, and I'm still needy - poor Mark!

2. My baby boy is so active and I love it
In my ultrasound and last midwife appointment both of them had trouble getting readings and photos because he is such a little mover. In my last ultrasound to see if my placenta had moved so I can have a natural birth [btw, it did- hurray!] my boy was sticking his tongue in and out and moving his hands and body everywhere. Even as I am typing this my stomach is moving from side to side. I love it. I love how active he is. It allows me to know he is okay and I love talking to him and asking him what he is doing. Hopefully, this means a quick labour if he can just keep moving right out of me... let's hope!

3. Pelvic pain
I am not on bed rest, I have a low risk pregnancy and not much to complain about so please don't think I'm feeling sorry for myself, but my pelvic pain has been rough. It now hurts to walk anywhere and with this nice weather all I want to do is go for a walk but even the thought of that is painful. Stairs hurt and moving or getting out of bed takes a good thirty seconds every time. It amazes me how I thought I was going to work out until the baby was born.. hahaha! I can't even bend over. Mark had to dress me a couple days ago because putting on socks sent pain all throughout my body. These last two months are going to be rough and I am not looking forward to the pain.

4. Self Esteem
Let's just be honest. I love being pregnant. I am one of those woman who love the big belly. Sometimes I even wish it was a bit bigger. But we all know you gain weight while pregnant and regardless of whether its for the good of the baby I still am gaining weight. I've struggled with self esteem this trimester especially. I took time to work out and keep my body healthy and was happy with the way I looked. Now, I've been wearing make up because my face is so fat and I feel so ugly. My wedding rings don't fit my fingers anymore because of the weight gain and I have stretch marks all over my body. It's so worth it to have a baby, but that doesn't mean it hasn't been tough watching my body change drastically. There hasn't been any tears yet, just a few sappy moments, and comments asking Mark if he still thinks I'm pretty [fyi: his answer has always been yes]. But I am going to keep wearing make up, even though I normally wouldn't because I feel ugly and fat and uncomfortable in my own skin some days. Just being honest.

5. I'm so in love
Seriously, I can't explain it. There are no words how much I love my baby boy already. I talk to him constantly [in that weird high pitched voice already] and pray over his sweet little life. I love him so much and I want to meet him so badly. I want to start life with him already. I want to experience raising a child. As scary as it is to be entrusted with someones life I am beyond excited to share this experience with Mark in raising him. He will be the best dad without a doubt. I am such an impatient person and I so want to meet him now because I love him so much!

I'm 32 weeks and who knows how many I have to go! 6? 8? 10? 
I can't wait to meet you baby and can't wait to share photos of him with you all! I am giving myself pep talks already to not be "that mom" who overshares. Guys, I'll try real hard! 

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