3.31.2016

Her Success Is Not My Failure


Can we just talk about this for a minute? This topic has been burning in my heart for months and I feel like we need to talk about it. So let's just clear the air shall we! Other people success and accomplishments doesn't mean you or I have failed! Shall I type it again just so we are clear - her success is not my failure.

The fastest way to rob and steal your joy is to compare. Trust me, this blog I am typing this all to myself. The moment I start comparing myself to what she has or doesn't have, the job she has, the ministry the Lord has given her, the way she runs her house...I start to fix my eyes on others and not on the Lord. My joy starts to slowly depend not on my salvation [Hab. 3:18-19] but on others and circumstances that change daily. This comparison game can creep up on us slowly, even when we are aware.

Our church took on a challenge to fast for a couple weeks in March before Easter. Since I'm super pregnant fasting from food wasn't an option but fasting from Instagram was. I only did this for a week but wow, was I amazed at how much comparing I do and thinking that her life is so successful and compared to my life I have failed. Don't get me wrong, I love Instagram and the biblical community and encouragement I receive from it on a daily basis but these thoughts of failure can sneak up very quickly if I'm not careful.


Most of my feed is filled up by churches and women in full time ministry. I've started to become jealous of all the ways God is using them because these past couple months I haven't seen much spiritual fruit. I told Mark last week that I can't remember the last time I made a new disciple and led someone to Christ. I want more and I know there is more the Lord wants me to do. I know I am in this refining season [in a lot of ways] but I just want to skip this season and go to the bearing fruit part not the planting seeds and trimming away the branches stage [1 Cor 3, John 15].

After this wake up call [again] I am reminded of all the many many verses that call us to cheer one another on, pray for each other and build one another up. I love the community of Christ and I get so encouraged when my brothers and sisters are encouraging me - I want to do a better more conscious job of that.  Thankfully through God's word I fully know that He has a different plan for each one of his children and we need to be faithful in our race and calling, while encouraging others on in their race. I need yet again be reminded that other people's success is not me failing but that I should take encouragement from their success thanking the Lord for how he is using them.

Easier said then done right? But seriously, let's get over this and be more effective for the kingdom together - we have kingdom work to do on this earth and only one short life to do it!

Here are some verses that have encouraged and reminded me to celebrate others success and not become jealous of it. Let these verses soak deep and speak life into your day.

Philippians 2: 3-4
"Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit but with humility of mind regard one another as more important than yourselves; do not merely look out for your own personal interests, but also for the interests of others."

1 Thessalonians 5:11
"Therefore encourage one another and build up one another, just as you also are doing."

Hebrews 3:13
"But encourage one another day after day, as long as it is still called "Today," so that none of you will be hardened by the deceitfulness of sin."

Hebrews 10:24
"And let us consider how to stir up one another to love and good works."

Proverbs 27:17
"Iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another."

Proverbs 25:11
"Like apples of gold in settings of silver is a word spoken in right circumstances."


Let's know we have purpose and cheer others on in their journey. Remember, someone else's success does not mean you have failed.

Cheering you on today!!

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